Cat and I have been together coming up on a year now, and one thing I can tell you if you want to live in the new energy and be in a relationship: both parties to the relationship have to commit to living 100% in the new energy.
If you still have a lot of anger cropping up, are fighting about stuff, and are not living happily, but are an awakened Shaumbra, then it is time to look inside oneself and ask if the commitment is there, and if you are living it.
Since we both took the affirmative action of recognizing and shifting this old pattern, any time something starts to feel edgy, I simply ask myself or Cat “is this a new energy way, or are we sliding back into the old energy patterns?”
The simple act itself moves you back to present and into the new energy, and whatever it was comes up and out, or integrated into the whole being. Isn’t that just yummy? No blame, no fight for the energy, just pure love; and with it, understanding.